Fighting Fear & Remembering Utoya

In the wake of a tragedy, it is hard to verbalize the true effect it has. There is the corruption it breaks down onto the immediately wounded, and then the stain it leaves on the distant viewers of the wasteland left behind. It is surreal, then heartbreaking. 

It is interesting to see the reactions, each obviously displaying different emotions from anger to fear. For me, I fight fear the most. There was no anger, just an overwhelming sense of sadness, then fear and worry.

Fear is the primary emotion that is intended for any victim, no matter the perpetrator.  It is what drives the next steps to the attempted outcome for the one creating the emotion. When it becomes a societal thing, then panic ensues and we all feel the fall-out. Fighting the fear and bringing back balance is the most beneficial thing one can do as a victim. Expunging the fear allows for a clear head, a willingness to stand up and make just decisions, and a way out of our own detrimental emotions that will slowly deteriorate us.

There are less connected and more insensitive reactions that create different kinds of panic and eyebrow-raising. Those that make jokes, that spin it into controversy, that use it to further their political or public platform. As a consumer of media, my surroundings, and an overall genuine caring for the human race, I always step back and refuse to buy into the immediate and emotion-filled propaganda that gets spewed. In all areas of life, especially in this year of politics, I have learned this to be a good process for all occasions.

I encourage everyone caught in the middle of a tragic time to pull back the veil to reveal the true foundation of the situation. Hand to hand — human to human — eye to eye. Focus on the healing and processing of the situation rather than the why, what if’s, or the blame. None of those things will change what has happened. It does not change the loss, remove the fear, or fix the situation. Keep your fingers on the support button and bring comfort when it is needed. Don’t perpetuate the brokenness, and work only to be a part of the healing process.

There is no doubt that we are a society of cracked foundations, and some are without repair. We carry-on the best we can in the shadow of the tragedies that happen daily. We must work to remember our wounds and embrace them for a better tomorrow.

Come together to support and pray for those that are hurting and suffering from the tragedy in Colorado, and for those remembering their devastating loss in Utoya, Norway a year ago today. 


If you are not familiar with the Norway attacks, in brief it was a mind-blowing devastation that effected the entire country. In 2011 a man car-bombed the Oslo government building then attacked a youth camp in Utoya. One in four Norwegians knew a victim, with seventy-seven being killed and three-hundred-and-nineteen people injured, some very seriously. Mostly young people lost their lives.


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  1. i like your well balanced thoughts on this jess…ugh what a hard time…and a hard place….there are plenty using this to push a position or platform…there are just as many hungry for blood in the name of justice…and does killing him really make us feel better or just add one more dead body…and in chasing that are we really honoring those left…so many thoughts swirling with this one surely….

    1. Thank you for reading Brian. It is a tough subject and one full of emotion and debate. There is no right answer for everyone and never will be. I just hope the time of grieving is used to support the victims and their families and not used to sensationalize or exploit. There are tragedies daily, and we would all do best to reach outside our comfort zones and lend a hand, an ear or a prayer. xoxo

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